Think of a time when you were enjoying the company of someone who really cared about you and was interested in everything you had to say.  The words you wanted to speak just came to you and, if you stumbled over your tongue every once in while, there was no harsh judgment or condemnation.  That kind of environment is where your true nature comes out and is received with warmth and attention.  That emotionally safe place is where you are easily able to display the very best version of yourself and communicate at your most engaging level.

Program your mind to create connections

Imagine that the camera is a close friend.  Convince yourself that you are talking directly to someone who loves you deeply and is very interested in what you have to say.  Think of how it would feel to talk to one person that you have a close relationship with, but haven’t seen in a while.  Let those emotions and familiarity influence how you address the camera.

The camera is a great listener

Pretending you are talking to someone you trust is an exercise in creative thinking.  This can help you become more relaxed and able to free yourself from fears about being recorded or judged on your performance.  Your friend will listen to you, without interrupting, while looking at you with deep fascination and endless compassion.  They will love you unconditionally, no matter how many mistakes you make or how many times you repeat yourself.

Your real friends know who you are

When we talk to people that we are sure genuinely love us, we can be completely transparent and fully open up.  We are able to show them who we actually are.  That is what our on-screen persona can be more like.  We can be free to feel and say what we mean without fear of being ridiculed.  When we are involved in a conversation with a dear friend we feel that it is safe to share and give more honestly.  That is why using this method can really benefit you and the people who watch your videos.  It helps you to just be yourself and talk so they can receive the gifts you bring.

Conveying a sense of familiarity

Once you learn and start using this technique you will be able to make talking head videos all the time and build a deeper connection with the people who watch them.  Your heart will flow through your words and penetrate the viewer’s soul and they will want to listen more and listen longer.

Bridging the virtual gap

Viewers want to know that you care about them in some way.  Your comfort will transfer to them and they will be more open to hearing what you have to say.  When you can convey that sense of interest in them, they will feel that you care and it’ll be much more likely that they will stay with you.  That greatly increases the chances of them spreading the messages you put out.  Organic sharing is what will get you connected with the customers who will most appreciate what you have to offer.

Who I am:

I’m Philip Quintas and I make it easier for customers to trust you before and after they buy from you by creating simple videos that help you help more people.

If you want one-to-one help with making better videos, I can answer your questions and even write, shoot, edit, upload and promote videos for you or any combination of these services.  Sign up using the Email Address* and First Name* form on this website to get direct access to me, my experience and offerings.

The tendency is to talk quickly because you are excited and you want to get a lot of information to the people who will watch your videos. That is natural, however, it can make it difficult for you to be understood by the people that you’re trying to reach. Keep in mind that they are not as familiar with what you are talking about as you are. By slowing down you will be giving your viewers more of an opportunity to receive the information that you’re presenting them.

Don’t make them work too hard

Sure, they can stop and rewind the video to get what you said, but your goal should be to be so clear with your message that they can follow it all the way through the first time they watch the video. Reviewing is a great way to get deeper comprehension of what you’re giving them; it should not be necessary to understand what you’re saying.

Avoid dragging it out too long

You do not have to slow it down to a snail’s pace (that can be difficult to watch without getting distracted.) Find a good, solid, moderate speed that is slower than your typical speech rate. If you normally have a very slow pace to your speech then it will probably be fine for video, although you might consider getting some independent feedback to learn if other people are able to follow along with you.

Remember to pace yourself and breathe

It is important to pause every once in while as well as to breathe when talking, especially when you are on camera. These, sometimes subtle, changes can make all the difference in sharing an idea well. If you are out of breath at the end of your video, it may be a good indicator that you need to slow down and record it again.

Find your own best rhythm

Everyone has an ideal tempo to talk at that is clear and moves along well. The best practice is to try and review, then post and see what others are saying about your communication skills. Always respond to comments, just be aware, others’ opinions are just as valid as yours (unless they are trolls)!

Who I am:

I’m Philip Quintas and I make it easier for customers to trust you before and after they buy from you by creating simple videos that help you help more people.

If you want one-to-one help with making better videos, I can answer your questions and even write, shoot, edit, upload and promote videos for you or any combination of these services.  Sign up using the Email Address* and First Name* form on this website to get direct access to me, my experience and offerings.